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    Realising that success isn’t just defined by your career

    I wrote a post recently called ‘Building a life I love‘ and was really suprised at how many lovely comments I recieved from everyone. This post is really a follow on from that about what I’ve learnt recently.

    I always used to think that success was defined by what career you had. Growing up I worked hard at school and went to college and then worked hard to go to university. I had all of these ideas about how I wanted to have a high flying career with a good salary and good perks. I’ve grown up in a ‘successful environment’. My dad’s a company director and my brother is a teacher in a private school and I’ve always looked up to them and seen them as ‘successful people’.

    Over the last few months I’ve done a lot of thinking and reflecting which I’m sure you’ve all seen on my blog. I’ve been really trying to focus on myself and what makes me happy. I wrote a post recently about feeling happy and inspired and I just feel like I’m mentally in such a good place right now.

    The biggest turning point for me was when I realised that being successful isn’t just about what career you have. I now look at myself and see myself as successful; I may not have that high flying career but I have a job that pays the bills and I’m happy.

    Here are some of the reasons why I think I’m successful:

    • I have a full time job with flexible hours to fit my lifestyle
    • I can pay my bills each month and still save some money for nice things
    • I own a house with my partner which we renovated
    • I’m a cat mum to the cutest fur baby and he’s so happy in his forever home
    • I have an amazing family that support me
    • I have my blog which is something I created
    • I make handmade cards and sell them to family and friends
    • I can drive and I own a car which gives me independance

    I’m sure you get the jist of what I’m trying to say. A high flying career isn’t for everyone and it’s ok to not want one. I can’t even begin to tell you how amazing it is to leave the office at 5 o’clock and not have to go home stressing over work. Instead, I leave my work at work and go home and enjoy my spare time doing what I want to do. If you don’t have a high flying career you’re still a successful person. And if you do have a high flying career and it’s what you want then that’s also amazing.

    Hope you enjoyed.

    Charlotte xx

     

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    Building a life I love

    I worked for 3 and a half years in a job that destroyed me. It was awful. My anxiety was through the roof, my mental health took a huge hit and my confidence plummeted below the ground. This job really put life into perspective for me. Time is precious and I want to enjoy my time and not let a job ruin everything for me. Honestly, I’m glad I had that job because without it I don’t think I would appreciate my life as much as I do now. I stepped away from this job just over a year ago now and I’m still loving my new job (which isn’t that new anymore haha).

    The podcast that really made me think

    My current job is all administration tasks so we’re allowed to listen to music/ podcasts whilst we work which I love. I discovered a podcast a few months back called ‘Don’t Keep Your Day Job’ by a wonderful lady named Cathy Heller and this was the thing that really got me thinking about life. I felt like I had been on a rollercoaster with my previous job and suddenly I found myself in this calm and peaceful place where my life was suddenly stress-free and it was amazing. Cathy is so refreshing to listen to. The podcast is all about building a life you love, finding your purpose in life and building joy into your everyday life. Listening to this podcast made me realise that all I wanted to do was build a life that I love. Of course, I would love to just start my own business, do my own thing every day and be my own boss… but the reality is that I have bills to pay so that isn’t really realistic straight away. With that being said dreams don’t become a reality unless you work towards them, even if that is just taking small steps at first. Here’s what I’ve been doing to start building a life that I love….

    Changed my hours at work

    I’ve changed my hours at work. I still work full time (37.5 hours a week) as I need the money, but I work it over 4 longer days rather than 5 days. This gives me an extra day off in the week to focus on myself and what I want to be doing.

    Appreciate my weekends

    When I hated my job I used to just mope around at weekends as I had no energy to do anything. I really appreciate my weekends now. I love going out with Shaun for walks at the beach, or we’ll head to the cinema or maybe get dinner out. It’s just nice to spend time together and do nice things.

    Spend more time doing what I enjoy

    This morning I baked some cookies because I love baking. Yesterday I sat and watched Line of Duty on Netflix whilst eating a Cadbury’s chocolate yoghurt because sometimes it’s nice to relax. I’m really just trying to focus on doing things that bring me joy and spending less time doing things that don’t bring me joy.

    Travel

    I’ve just returned from a 2-week holiday to Disney World. It was amazing… but then a week after returning we were feeling tired from how busy the holiday was and felt like some time to relax would be nice so we’ve booked a trip to Majorca for September. We don’t have children yet and find ourselves in a financial situation where we can pay the bills and still save some money each month. We figured we may as well enjoy ourselves whilst we can afford to and go to places we want to.

    It’s amazing how life can change so much. When I worked my job I hated I felt trapped and as if I would never be happy. Fast forward one year and I’m probably the happiest I’ve ever been. If you’re in a bad place right now please know that it does get better even if it doesn’t feel like that now. And I really urge you to listen to Don’t Keep Your Day Job; it’s honestly such a breath of fresh air that we probably all need! 

    Thanks for reading!

    Charlotte xx

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    10 things I’ve achieved in 10 years

    I’ve been thinking a lot recently about achievement. There’s been a lot going on in my circle of friends with people settling down in relationships and buying houses. It’s really made me think about how much we all achieve after leaving school. I’m 26 (almost 27) and left school over 10 years ago which is crazy! When I was at school I remember thinking that my GCSE’s were the most important thing ever (which they were at the time) and I couldn’t even imagine what my life would be like once I left school. When I look back and reflect on the past 10 years I’ve actually achieved so much and I’m proud of myself.

    These are the 10 achievements that stand out to me the most from the past 10 years. 

    1- I went to college and got 3 A-levels and then went on to do a third year at college where I studied an Art Foundation in Graphic Design.

    2- I passed my driving test … and for someone who was terrified of learning to drive this was a big thing for me. I still don’t enjoy driving but I do it to get me from A to B.

    3- I moved away from my home town for 3 years and attended University where I achieved a 2nd Class Honours Degree in Graphic Design. I never really studied Graphic Design with the intention of getting a job in it, it’s just something that I’ve always been passionate about and I love being creative in my spare time.

    4- I travelled to Disney World with my best friend and we managed to navigate our way around for 2 weeks without getting lost!

    5- I got my first ‘proper’ job after finishing university. I was working in a call centre and it was absolutely awful. I went through 3 years of feeling anxious and miserable and I finally plucked up the courage to admit that I was struggling. I moved to a different department (where I now work) and I’ve never been happier.

    6- I met Shaun, we’ve almost been together for 4 years now which is scary. We’ve bought our first home together and completely renovated the house. Our little house is so perfect and we love it a lot.

    7- I re-discovered my love of card making and doing crafty things. I used to make cards when I was about 12 years old and sell them to my mum and dad. I’m now taking my card making a lot more seriously and would love to open my own business one day.

    8- I’ve travelled to Paris, Majorca, Abu Dhabi and Florida with Shaun.

    9- This one is still a massive work in progress but I’m teaching myself how to sew. My parents bought me a sewing machine for my birthday and I’m slowly getting the hang of the basics. I’d love to one day be able to make my own clothes.

    10- I adopted a furry friend. We gave Pudsey his forever home at the end of last year and he’s settled in a treat. He loves belly rubs, head massages and likes to have the whole sofa to himself!

    Writing this post has actually made me feel really proud of myself. It’s easy to forget what we’ve achieved but when you look back and reflect the list can be pretty long!

    What have you achieved in the past 10 years? 

    Charlotte xx

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    4 things to do this month for a positive year

    January is finally out of the way and boy did it seem like a long month! It wasn’t a bad month, or a good month, it was just pretty average. I’m not a big fan of this time of year. It’s cold and dark and spring seems like it’s a lifetime away. With that being said I want to make February a positive month and set myself up for the year ahead. Here are four things I want to do this month.

    1 – Clear out unwanted clothes

    Clearing out my wardrobe and getting rid of things that I no longer wear is one of my favourite things to do at this time of year. It’s nice to make a bit of room for some new spring pieces and it’s also a good way to discover old favourites that have ended up lost at the back of the wardrobe.

    2 – Clear out the kitchen cupboards 

    I can actually tick this one off of the list as I did it earlier. I think we all end up at a point where we have things in the kitchen cupboard that have gone out of date or ingredients that we bought to make one meal and have never used again. I got rid of everything like this and it’s so refreshing to see a tidy kitchen cupboard. Not only that, but I’m trying to cook new meals and try new things. This has freed up room for me to buy some new ingredients.

    3 – Create a healthy habit and stick to it 

    I don’t mean commit yourself to exercise 7 days a week for the rest of the year because that probably isn’t going to happen! But we can all make small healthy changes that we’re more likely to stick to. The one I focus on is drinking water. I’m actually pretty good and drink 2 litres of water a day. So for me, I’m trying to up this to around 3 litres of water a day and cut out the odd fizzy drinks that I sometimes have. Another healthy habit you could try is to find a substitute. So if for example, you eat a lot of crisps, maybe try and replace some of them with popcorn which is slightly healthier. Or you could replace full-fat Coke with Coke Zero. Sometimes it’s lots of small changes that can have a positive effect on us.

    4 – Make some plans 

    It’s always nice to have something to look forward to. This time of year can be a bit of a drag trying to get to summer. Try and make some plans for the year ahead so that you have positive things to look forward to. This could be as simple as arranging a meal out with a group of friends, booking tickets for a concert or if you want something a little more extravagant then why not book a holiday!

    Do you have anything that you hope to do this month? Let me know in the comments below. 

    Charlotte xx

     

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    2019 – The year of change

    There’s nothing I love more than a fresh start and a clean slate. Getting a new calendar and seeing that you have 365 days ahead of you to do what you want with them is a bliss feeling. Recently, I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting about where I am in life. If I’m being honest, I’m actually very happy with my life right now. I’m 26, I’m a homeowner and I have a job that doesn’t make me miserable. I’m in a very happy relationship and I’m surrounded by wonderful family and friends. But with that being said, there’s anything wrong with change. Sometimes you need to change things up to move forward and progress. I thought I would share some of the things that I want to change this year.

    Stop being so lazy 

    I’m actually a very productive person on the whole, but I find after a day at work I’m always really tired when I get home. I get up at 6am every day for work and I usually get home from work around 5pm. Once I’ve had dinner and done any chores all I ever do is sit on the sofa and watch the TV until I go to bed. This HAS to change. As many of you know I’m really into arts and crafts and would love to open my own business. I need to start being more productive during my evenings to make me dream a reality! I’m thinking of setting aside a couple of evenings a week to spend in my craft room getting some projects done.

    Live a healthier lifestyle 

    I never really exercise. Unless you count walking for 20 minutes a day from my car to work?! I know that I need to lose a bit of weight but instead of going on some stupid diet which I’ll never stick to I just want to try and live a healthier lifestyle. Last year I started drinking 2 litres of water a day and this year I’m going to try and up that to 3 litres a day. I’m also trying to cook more meals from scratch and eat out less. I hate the gym so I definitely won’t be joining one but I’m going to try and work out at home at least 3 times a week.

    Make more time for friends 

    I feel like I hardly ever see my friends. We’re all busy with full-time jobs and life just gets in the way. I want to make more of a conscious effort this year to try and meet up with my closest friend every couple of weeks. We love spending time together and definitely need to make more of an effort to fit it in.

    Make date night a priority 

    Shaun and I have been together for 3 and a half years now. At the start of our relationship, we used to have ‘date night’ most weeks and I really miss it. We live together and also work together! (I know right, we must be crazy?!). Things have just become very ‘normal’ as we go about our day to day lives of getting things done. I miss going bowling, and going for walks along the beach and games nights! I definitely need date night back in my life!

    I’m excited for 2019 and I have so much to look forward to. I’m hoping that making some changes to my life will make 2019 my best year yet. Are you making any changes this year? Let me know below.

    Charlotte xx

     

     

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