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October 2017

  • Life Things

    Dealing with loss and finding ways to cope

    Today’s post was supposed to be my top 5 shows to watch on Netflix… But I just haven’t been able to write it. Recently I’ve been feeling really down and rubbish and I’ve been struggling. I’ve lost all motivation, I feel sad and upset.

    What’s happened? 

    Back in April, I lost my Nan. She was like my best friend. I used to go to her about everything and she was always such a huge part of my life. It was all very sudden. I saw her in March and we sat and chatted for hours and everything was fine. Then forward on a couple of weeks into April and she was gone. I won’t go into all the detail – She contracted a very rare illness that took over her body and within just a few weeks she was gone.

    She was only 72, she should have still had so many more years ahead of her. The suddenness made everything 10 times worse as I had no time to prepare and never got to see her to say goodbye.

    Why am I struggling now? 

    Honestly, I went into denial when it first happened and kept telling myself it wasn’t real and everything would go back to normal. Every time I felt sad, I tried to push everything to the back of my mind and pretend it wasn’t happening.

    My Nan has always been my go-to person for any major event that’s happened in my life. She’s listened to me rant and cry and she’s shared all of the exciting moments in my life too! I’m about to buy a house … This is a big thing in my life … So of course, the person I want to run to is my Nan. I want to share my excitement with her and tell her all my plans for decorating and such… but she isn’t here and she isn’t coming back.

    It’s really hit home over the last couple of weeks that I will never see her again. I’m struggling, but I’m also trying to be brave and carry on as normal. I’m not writing this because I want your sympathy. It’s more that I want you to know it’s ok to feel sad and be upset. If you need to cry then cry!

    Ways to cope with loss 

    To finish up this post, I want to share some of the ways that I have been coping with loss. I know that everyone deals with things in their own way. But if this helps just one person then it was worthwhile writing it.

    1 – Give yourself time to grieve and feel sad

    2 – Look back on all the good memories you shared together

    3 – Ask yourself the question – ‘what would the person you have lost want you to do now they’re gone?’

    I know my Nan would want me to follow my dreams, be happy and probably do lot’s of baking as she loved to bake! 

    4 – Try and keep busy, whether that be work or socialising.

    5 – Arrange a get together with your closest friends. They’re the ones that understand you the most and they’ll always be a shoulder for you to cry on.

    6 – Do something you enjoy doing.

    I love being creative, so I’ve dedicated a lot of time to making cards to keep me distracted and busy. 

    7 – Remember it’s ok to feel sad from time to time.

    8 – Don’t ever suffer in silence. There is always someone that will listen and help.

    This post is very different to what I usually post, but it just felt right and I needed to get it off my chest. If anyone else is struggling to cope with loss I will always be here to listen if you need someone. 🙂

    Charlotte xx

    PS – On a more lighthearted note, I will write my top 5 Netflix shows post very soon haha 😉

     

     

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  • Handmade Crafts

    Stampin’ Up Christmas card design

    Discovering Stampin’ Up was honestly the best thing to ever happen to my craft loving life! Although, it probably wasn’t so good for my bank account! haha. If you’ve never heard of Stampin’ Up you should definitely check out their website. They’re a craft website that sells all sorts of crafty things from paper, die cuts, stamps, ink etc. The quality of their products are amazing and I’d highly recommend them for anyone that likes craft things.

    It’s never too early for Christmas cards 

    Preparing early for Christmas is always key. I have various family members that buy their cards from me. This means I have to be organised to make sure everything is designed in time for Christmas. Today I’m sharing my latest card that I have made which I used the Merry Mice Stampin’ Up set for.

    How I made the card 

    I always like to create layers when I make cards as I find this the easiest way to work. I started off by picking the red card for my background colour which is always a winner for Christmas designs.

    The mouse was stamped on using my Merry Mice Stampin’ set and then I used my Pro Marker set to colour the stamp in. These pens are great as they come with a blender which I use to blend colours together to create a more professional finish.

    Using a gold strip of glitter card, I layered this behind the mouse cutout to start building the card and giving it more depth. Finally, I used a ‘Christmas Wishes’ Stamp that I bought from Etsy with gold ink and placed this in the corner of the card.

    I honestly love how cute the mouse is and find he’s perfect for putting on the front of Christmas cards. I love how all of the colours go well together, and the glitter paper adds the extra Christmas touch!

    Thanks for reading,

    Charlotte xx

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  • Life Things

    Dealing with feeling homesick at university

    Moving away to university is a big thing. You pack up your bedroom, move across the country away from your family and friends and you don’t know anybody. It’s very normal to feel homesick when you find yourself in an unfamiliar environment. This can often lead to feeling lonely, sad, anxious or stressed.

    I have previously done a post on how to survive the stress of university and now I wanted to cover the aspect of dealing with homesickness as this is something I struggled with.

    My experience at university 

    When I moved away to university years ago I remember feeling really anxious and scared. I didn’t know anybody and I found the whole process very stressful. Often, I found myself on the phone with my parents at midnight, crying and telling them that I didn’t want to be there and wanted to move home. I found my first year extremely hard as I didn’t get on with my flatmates. I was very homesick and all I wanted to do was go home. The second and third year did get easier as I moved into a house with friends that I had made and we all looked out for each other and had a fab time!

    How can you deal with feeling homesick 

    I found certain things really helpful to try and overcome the homesick feeling and have a more enjoyable experience so I want to share my tips with you.

    1- Have familiar things in your room – Teddies, photographs, candles, mugs etc. It really helps to keep home comforts in your bedroom as it helps to bring back familiarity.

    2 – Make your room a nice environment to be in – University halls aren’t always the nicest, so as well as home comforts it’s nice to add touches such as fairy lights, cosy blankets and cushions. You’ll spend a lot of time in your room so you need to make it into an environment that you want to be in.

    3 – Talk to people – If you feel homesick, don’t suffer in silence! Talk to a friend or a tutor. Most universities will also have counselling services that you can use if you’re really struggling. The main thing to remember is that there’s always someone to talk to.

    4 – Talk to your parents – Setting aside a certain evening each week to Skype your parents is definitely really helpful. It gives you something to work towards as you know you’ll get to speak to your parents in just a few days time. It’s also a great way to keep up to date with what’s happening at home.

    5 – Plan a trip back home – I found it really helpful to go home for the weekend every 6-8 weeks. It gave me something to look forward to and made the difficult days in between easier knowing I could go home soon.

    The main thing to remember is that you have not failed because you feel homesick. It is very natural to feel this way. Use the support around you and never suffer in silence. Always remember how far you’ve come and how great you’ll feel when you graduate.

    I hope this is helpful to anyone who is currently feeling homesick.

    Do you have any tips for dealing with homesickness?

    Charlotte xx

    Dealing with homesickness at university
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  • Motivation and Goals

    My goals for October – Let’s get organised!

    It’s that time of the month again, we all sit there and ask ourselves the question “where did September go? How is it October already?” – Yeah, I can totally relate! September flew by.

    My goals for September were very much focused on self-care and taking some time out for myself. I really enjoyed taking a back seat and relaxing. I spent the last week of September away with Shaun and it was so nice to have loads of chill out time and be able to relax.

    The plan for October 

    October is going to be a month focused on getting organised! I went to view a house last week and I’m in the process of sorting the sale of the house out with a solicitor. I’m trying to get the mortgage sorted as well. With all of this happening, I really need to stay on top of things this month.

    My Goals for the month  

    • Get on top of planning blog posts and sort out a schedule. – I’ve decided I want to have a schedule for uploading new posts. I think this will really help me with time management. At the moment I post as and when, but this really isn’t working for me. I’m an organised freak and like to have everything planned out for me.
    • Start thinking about Christmas presents. – This probably seems really early. The reality is once the house sale has gone through, I’m going to be poor!! I’ve set some money aside and I want to start making a list of how much I’m going to spend on people and ideas of what I can buy them.
    • Make lots of lists. – I love a good list! I want to start making lists of all the things I’m going to need to do with purchasing a house, what I’m going to need to buy and who I need to contact. Writing things down as a list always sets out a clearer picture in my head so I don’t get stressed with everything that needs doing.

    I’m keeping it pretty short this month with my goals. I know I’m going to be very busy. The best thing for me to do is focus on being organised and staying on top of things.

    What are your plans for the upcoming month?

    Charlotte xx

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