Moving away to university is a big thing. You pack up your bedroom, move across the country away from your family and friends and you don’t know anybody. It’s very normal to feel homesick when you find yourself in an unfamiliar environment. This can often lead to feeling lonely, sad, anxious or stressed.
I have previously done a post on how to survive the stress of university and now I wanted to cover the aspect of dealing with homesickness as this is something I struggled with.
My experience at university
When I moved away to university years ago I remember feeling really anxious and scared. I didn’t know anybody and I found the whole process very stressful. Often, I found myself on the phone with my parents at midnight, crying and telling them that I didn’t want to be there and wanted to move home. I found my first year extremely hard as I didn’t get on with my flatmates. I was very homesick and all I wanted to do was go home. The second and third year did get easier as I moved into a house with friends that I had made and we all looked out for each other and had a fab time!
How can you deal with feeling homesick
I found certain things really helpful to try and overcome the homesick feeling and have a more enjoyable experience so I want to share my tips with you.
1- Have familiar things in your room – Teddies, photographs, candles, mugs etc. It really helps to keep home comforts in your bedroom as it helps to bring back familiarity.
2 – Make your room a nice environment to be in – University halls aren’t always the nicest, so as well as home comforts it’s nice to add touches such as fairy lights, cosy blankets and cushions. You’ll spend a lot of time in your room so you need to make it into an environment that you want to be in.
3 – Talk to people – If you feel homesick, don’t suffer in silence! Talk to a friend or a tutor. Most universities will also have counselling services that you can use if you’re really struggling. The main thing to remember is that there’s always someone to talk to.
4 – Talk to your parents – Setting aside a certain evening each week to Skype your parents is definitely really helpful. It gives you something to work towards as you know you’ll get to speak to your parents in just a few days time. It’s also a great way to keep up to date with what’s happening at home.
5 – Plan a trip back home – I found it really helpful to go home for the weekend every 6-8 weeks. It gave me something to look forward to and made the difficult days in between easier knowing I could go home soon.
The main thing to remember is that you have not failed because you feel homesick. It is very natural to feel this way. Use the support around you and never suffer in silence. Always remember how far you’ve come and how great you’ll feel when you graduate.
I hope this is helpful to anyone who is currently feeling homesick.
Do you have any tips for dealing with homesickness?